"Everybody wants to be somebody. Once this becomes a fundamental way of viewing your team, teammates, classmates, and everyone you meet, you will become a person of influence." ~ Dodd
I do some of my best thinking when I drive. Yes, I'm focused on the road, but life and all it presents on a day to day basis races through my head. As I drove home after a couple of matches in KC this past weekend, I started to think about my young teams. Questions like how did they play? Did they compete hard? Did my training help them succeed this weekend? Could the result have been different if I did something different? What was my demeanor on the sideline and at halftime? Two games, two ties, both results feeling just "eh", but most importantly my thoughts included, "Was I a good coach for the girls today?" I started to think about each player and started asking myself if each had a good day or hard day on the field, had they improved from the week before, and did I need to give them specific feedback on their performance.
I decided that in order for me to try to be a "better coach" on the day I would need to check in with each player, kind of a "leaving September and welcome to October" type convo to see how they were feeling and ask them a few questions. My questions included, "What has been your favorite moment of the season so far?" and "What is one thing you think you could improve upon to make us a better team?" My final question, I have found, has been the most important. After seeing the quote above from Dr. Cory Dodd, a professor at The Academy for Sports Leadership, I wanted to make sure that I let the girls know they are "somebody" important to the coach and the team. I asked them, "What is one way you think I could be a better coach for you?" These are young ladies, many still in middle school, so the answers have been very predictable; "Push me harder", "Maybe show more video of our games", and "More team bonding". But even though the answers have not been earth-shattering I think the brief conversation between coach and player is making the girls feel important and giving them some say in their "experience" as we move into October. I hope they feel like "somebody" :)
Just food for thought, how can you shape this same type of simple exercise for your team since we don't all coach middle school aged players? Let me know if you try it, have great weekend coaches!
"Haha, I've never seen my daughter so excited to clean something" ~ Parent of an 05 Elite player
Two weeks ago the 2005 and 2006 Elite players got together to do a little "Fall cleaning" at The Park. In an effort to do a little Upper 90 service work and make our little soccer community a cleaner place to live each week, the girls picked up litter, scrubbed trash cans...
SHIELD VALUE - RESPECT!
*Coaches, as always, remind your players to clean your training and game area of all trash, gear, and field accessories upon finishing your session time, thank you!
*Coaches, if you or your players misplace something please check the Lost & Found on the North Patio, thank you!
Lately, I have been reminded about why I started coaching. In my first experience as a coach, at age 17, I worked with Andy Ciamitarro and Scott Moser, coaching a U14 NORCO team. I had a wonderful experience, so much so that I have coached teams every year since. Recently a few things have come to light for me that have reminded me as to "why" I became an effective coach with that U14 NORCO squad, and why I continue to find a motivation to coach even today. I will be honest, I didn't start coaching because I was interested in player development secrets, tactical insight, or to create a...
Guest Players - As always coaches and managers we are eager to help you find players to round out your roster for the week. It helps if we as Age Group Coordinators are given a few days notice, but nevertheless, you should always go through us when the "guest playing" topic surfaces.